Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Charity
I have a hard time showing people charity when I'm upset. I realized this today on my morning walk. Nathaniel's math teacher marked a test incorrectly, giving him a low score, which surprised us as it is his strongest subject and her mistake caused more discouragement than need be. But it was just a mistake. I, of course, felt I needed to comment on the test which I was required to sign, that she needed to grade his papers correctly and change his grade and go over the one word he obviously didn't understand...blah, blah, blah. I am a teacher so maybe I hold them up to the kind of expectations I have for myself. But then I also know teachers have a tremendously difficult job, wearing so many hats a day...it's amazing more mistakes aren't made! We ended the day on a low note... the house party was great, but my son's day at school was terrible... bad behaviour which was surprising, bad test score and a fight with a friend-- not at all like my smiling, happy go lucky kid who left that morning. After the sensitive lecture and sending him off this morning, discouraged (both of us) I'm really upset because I don't know what to do. His math teacher called, and we had to go over why I wrote that note (which embarressed Nathaniel)....ugh. So I'm focusing on charity today: with others and maybe with myself because I can't stop crying. Motherhood is not that easy and it's hard to fix problems for your children even when it breaks your heart!
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This is a tough one. I hope Nathaniel's day was better today. Perhaps, the teacher was having a bad day. Not that that makes you feel any better. You do need to stick up for your own children.
I do always come back to food. But, an ice cream cone can do wonders for your soul:)
We moms are the advocates for our children. That's just the way it is. If the teacher is also a mom, she will understand that. Maybe if she ever becomes a mom, she'll remember this event with more charity. I hope today is a better day.
Well sometimes a mom's gotta do what a mom's gotta do. It might make you feel better to write her a little note. Sort of apologizing for the accusatory nature of your note but in another aspect letting her know that when an error has been made you will call it to her attention.
Hope today was better!
Love,
Julie
Oh dear I've turned up just at the wrong moment:(
Well if I can add anything to make you feel a bit better, we had a run in with the headmistress at my childrens school.
It's a tiny country school on the English downs, surrounded by beautiful trees, scenery, cute villages etc (get the picture).
Well we had a letter come home from school saying don't being nuts into school because a new child starting was hyper allergic to nuts (the really dangerous type of allergy that could cause a life threatening situation).
Well my children are the fussiest eaters and nuts (high in protein) play a big part of there breakfast, lunch, dinner and snacks diet.
We told the head that she can't expect the whole school to stop eating nuts. Well not only did she expect that but she also said they should refrain from eating nuts before they go to school because if they breath on the child, this could bring on a shock. Not only that she was thinking of checking the school grounds for trees with nuts and cutting them down....
am I in the twilight zone. ....
(we live in the country!)
I feel for the family with the little childs allergy but maybe they should think about a school in a town or city (not that you can get away from trees or nuts there)
Well we had a few words to say about that. Needless to say I will be keeping a close eye on the surrounding countryside:)
So really want I want to say is don't be afraid to stand up for your family on what you feel is unfair, your child will learn from you that he can't be walked over (even though he might feel a bit prickly about it now). Hopefully the teacher will learn some humility at the same time. Any good teacher will learn from this episode - right.
Hope I have not gone on to long.
Now I am off to the romantic homes bit:)))
best wishes Ginny (from England)
Oh dear, days like these happen to all of us and are hard but you still would have felt just as bad if you hadn't done anything. Being a mother seems to be one tough decision after another. I hope today is better for both of you.
The Habu is great isn't it? Such strange stuff, I am completely addicted.
Beth, you can absolutely give yourself some charity. You give so much charity to others that you could never give yourself too much charity. XOXO
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